We took a fun humor break on my Confusion to Clarity Facebook page and here are the gems that were posted to the question “How many narcissists does it take to change a light bulb?”
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Here are many examples of the unhelpful advice that is cookie-cutter “marriage advice” that abused women get from counselors and friends who don’t understand abuse (and is pretty shallow even for a non-abusive marriage.)
If you hear this kind of advice, run the other direction, read my blog, and find help from someone who understands abuse!
Here are many examples of the stupid, unhelpful, and even dangerous advice that the Christian church and culture gives to abused women.
If you hear this kind of advice, run the other direction, read my blog, and find help from someone who understands abuse!
In this article, I’m sharing some women’s positive experiences so you know what you should be expecting from your church and pastor.
If your church or pastor responds to you with anything less than support, love, concern, and offers of help, you have every right to find a church that will respond correctly.
If your church responds with spiritually abusive lies and demands, run in other direction as fast as you can! You deserve support and help.
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How do you know when you are experiencing spiritual abuse by your church when going for help about an abusive marriage?
Survivors share some examples of spiritually abuse reactions, followed by some advice.
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Recently, in my Confusion to Clarity FB group for survivors, a woman posted, “Why did the narcissist cross the road…?” What followed was a fantastic thread of humor and truth. Here are some of the answers.
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Survivors answer these questions: How did you come to realize that your husband’s covert emotional and psychological abuse was intentional? Before this, did you believe he was unaware, wounded, or some other thing that made you give him the benefit of the doubt over and over? When you realized the abuse was intentional, how did this change things for you?
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Do you know why it's important to learn about the covert tactics that are being used on you? Because this is absolutely the fastest way to get out of feeling crazy. These tactics frame the ongoing, secret mind games that are meant to systematically manipulate your psychology and emotions. Covert abusers cloak these tactics in concern, love, charm, praise, fake empathy, trustworthiness, smiles and pretending to be your biggest supporter. They are under the radar and hidden so that you, the target, can’t easily identify what’s going on.
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These are the resources outside this website than can be very helpful in understanding and healing from covert abuse.
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Essential reading to understand the covert narcissist and covert abuser, and how to know if he’ll change. After reading this you’ll know that it wasn’t your fault and you’ll see how you were set up to be victimized. This article will explain your life to you, give you strength, and begin to set you free!.
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